It’s Natural to Blame Others
You probably believe the cause of this chaos is that your business is unique or faces a unique set of obstacles, you’re developing a new market, or you don’t have the resources to operate like a more established business. It is common for us entrepreneurs to blame the chaos on others, the lack of money, the lack of resources, the lack of a defined market, or one of the many other excuses for not fixing the chaos. When you believe passionately in your idea and chaos ensues, it’s easy to blame everyone and everything else. After all, you think you are doing the right thing. This may be ego, insecurity or over-confidence in your ability. The natural reaction is – “How dare you challenge me? Without me, this business would be nothing.” We all say, “It’s not me, it’s you.” We think:
- Customers don’t understand.
- Employees don’t work hard enough.
- Employees aren’t talented enough.
- Vendors don’t perform.
- Advisors aren’t committed.
- Investors haven’t seen something like this before.
- Friends don’t care as much as we do.
- Family can’t understand what it feels like to walk a mile in our shoes.
There may be some truth in each of these complaints, but what is important is why you are getting negative results in the first place.
Accept The Brutal Truth
Bottom line—it is your job to fix these issues. You are the leader, and must manage the chaos, whether it is the pressure, passion, pleasure or pain, a lack of experience or a lack of perspective doesn’t matter. It is your job to fix it. But while you’re doing hard work, remember that you are the greatest tool you have to transform chaos into order and to bring your vision to life—and to see it grow successfully.
Don’t look at this as fixing something that is wrong with you. It’s natural that you are in over your head. Being an entrepreneur is a humbling experience. Your friends say to you, “You get to be your own boss.” You think to yourself, “It must be cool to make the donuts at Dunkin Donuts.” Accepting that your company is flailing because of you is a tough pill to swallow, but once you take the medicine, and put the job of “learner” on your resume, you can do great things. Accept this truth, and it will set you free.